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Pussy Jamz

Posted by RJ on January 18, 2009

I was inspired by my peeps at A Different King of Blog to do another music post.  How did they inspire me?  By their appreciation for music that I was convinced would not capture their attention in the least bit.

The Ultimate Release playlist from the other day captured some D.C. flavor, then threw you all the way to Cali, and finally back to the east coast–the south.  I have befriended many on the basis of my mix in taste in music.   The CDs that I create have confused the hell out of a lot of people but they capture my various moods that present in a day, or in an hour.

Ever since I have identified with womanism/feminism, I have had an ongoing psychological conflict with some of the music that I have loved/do love because of the misogynistic tones and the degradation of women displayed in the lyrics (and videos)–especially Black women.  I love a good beat, bass, drums, guitar, piano…but when nasty lyrics are laid on top of the track, I take notice. But one half of me tries to ignore it.  The other half of me knows every single word uttered as if it were testimony.

Half of me has a picket sign up on Spelman’s campus or at BET saying, “Stop!”  And the other half of me is shakin like a salt shaker into a trance.  I don’t know what to do.

I realize that the lyrics in rap have gotten worse and worse…I don’t think explicit comes close to defining it anymore.  Explicit was the old gangsta rap. This stuff now is violent-torture-pornographic.  But I’m grown…responsible…I can take it…I can deal with it…I guess…

But my little sisters and future Black princesses…I don’t know what they think.  Are they thinking? Is it destroying their self image? Defining their roles as subjugated to men?  Sex objects?  Pussy poppers?  Bitches and hoes?

The Black community has had this dialogue about music repeatedly.  What has been the result?  Periodic wars between freedom of expression and the pseudoliberation of women.  While I don’t agree with sensoring music, I cannot deny that Black women are at the very bottom of the totem pole in the United States.  We must fight everyone to rise to the top.

Do our brothers not respect us?

While I’m still thinking about the answers to these questions, music relieves me and puts my soul at ease. It calms (or invigorates…LOL) my sexual energy which is tied to my mental energy.  I am brand new after a good session…of music.  I still detest the p* word (yes, I know I typed it in the title) and yet I seem to be magically attracted to songs with the word.

This next playlist has two more songs from Reaction Band.  I practically hate the lyrics because of the overuse of the p* word…but the beats are so damn tight.  The first song is Mrs. Officer, yes a play off of the Bobby Valentino song [that I hate].   I was so shocked when I first heard the chorus…but I got over it!  The second song is called Pussy Bounce…at the 5:03 mark forward, they tear that shit up!  The 3rd song is Pop That Pussy by 2 Live Crew.  The 4th and 5th are by Luke, aka Nastyman–I Wanna Rock and Scarred–all old tracks from the 90s…all my favorites.  And the last song is Gimmie That Pussy by Lil Webbie.

Believe me, these aren’t even the worst songs that I have. Stay tuned and please be sensitive to my internal conflict.

Listen to the playlist: Pussy Jamz

11 Responses to “Pussy Jamz”

  1. dorian9 said

    yeah rj – the music moves you body and soul (because we are all rhythm and vibration da girl can’t help it) but the words play with your head because you have a thinking and talking head you can’t help but let it bother you. a’ la deep throat (not the watergate one but the original one) maybe your g spot is probably not close to your shakin’ to the music oblivious booty but higher up, it’s in your brain. i’m sensitive to your internal conflict, because i too love the music that brings on the energy bt i the words sometimes rubs the intellectus the wrong way and brings on stymus interruptus.and there you have dorian silliness. but i always mean what i say if you know what i mean…pussy jamz – great all-girl band name.if i were 15 yrs younger and still into playing in a band i’d take that name. with your permission of course. hey aren’t you a capricorn ..happy birthday, chicka, whenever that is/was!! d

  2. rj said

    Great comment.

  3. tothewire said

    Joe and I had a similar conversation on “pussy music” after my young niece at the tender age of 17 excited shared a pussy song with us. Joe asked her to shut it off and then gave her a long speach about respecting herself, and demanding respect from any guy she dates “because a man will not give respect out to a woman for free.” He told me later how shocked he was that she wasn’t the least bit shy about sharing the song with us. Of course my nieces are used to sharing all kinds of things with me, but still he was uncomfortable with her comfortability. It is a conflict! I worry about my young nieces.

    Great post RJ!

  4. rj said

    She “shared” it with you? Like, she was like, “Check this out?” Wow. Why is the answer to turn the music off? I’m just wondering, really, as I do not know what the answer is…

    I can tell you that I started listening to music like this at around 12…I’m not a city girl either, strait burbs…I was fully conscious of the lyrics though not the dynamics…

  5. Lawman2 said

    good post rj!

    had to leave our site for a bit…centered just pissed me the fuck off!i don’t know if i want to beat his ass or mine the most.i will stay back here in the back office because if i see him i’ll be tempted to punch him in the filthy condescending mouth of his!

    i feel like shit!i thought it would be funny to read his comment on that ann coulter post of tothewires.i never dreamed he would write such a hurtful comment to her.man i would feel a little better if i could just beat his ass.give him an attitude adjustment he won’t soon forget.damn it damn it damn it

    trish is being all no big deal about it…but i know how sensitive she really is.she covers it up to everyone even me.i need my ass kicked for setting her up like that. damn it damn it damn it

  6. Lawman2 said

    think i will listen to some of the music here…

  7. rj said

    first, i didn’t know centered was a he. is kathy a he, too! LOL. Sorry, I had to ask, hope you got a laugh.

    second, i saw the exchange on the post, I was very surprised…but not really, because, as I commented, love is love…I know you were playing around with your intentions, but you can never know the motives of others’. you can fix it, just love ttw more.

    In honor of Dr. King, he wouldn’t want you to beat centered’s ass…but tomorrow is a new day, and, you can honor Malcolm X.

    And I have the music for your soul…let me find you something…

  8. Lawman2 said

    sounds good!i forgot my damn password on imeem and waiting on the email to retrieve it…lol

  9. RJ said

    I’m making the caveman a playlist right now–will be done shortly. Don’t need pussy music when you’re pissed. Not a good combo.

  10. Lawman2 said

    thanx rj!

  11. Lawman2 said

    think i will go shoot some ball.i’ll be back in a bit!looking forward to your list for me…put a smile right on my face!

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